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Beginners Guide to Buying Sex Toys

Choosing your first sex toy can be a daunting task, one that many will often choose to avoid; however, the world of dildos and vibrators can be an invigorating one once you’ve dipped your toes in the water. So we have put together this handy guide on how to find the right fit for you.

The first thing to consider is the type of toy; generally for women these consist of clitoral stimulators, dildos, vibrators, dual action vibrators and anal toys.

Clitoral Stimulators

Clitoral Stimulators are used externally to, you guessed it, stimulate the clitoris. Studies have shown that 76% of women struggle to reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation. We recommend trying a clitoral stimulator as your first toy. The advantages include their small size, allowing you to take it anywhere in your handbag, great for travelling, easy to use, and minimal controls.


Dildos are non-vibrating phallic shaped toys designed to stimulate the g-spot. Requiring no power, they’re silent, won’t stop mid-use and when looked after correctly can be a lifelong friend. They are a good choice for someone on a budget or for someone wishing to explore with a closer feeling to the real thing.


Vibrators are essentially a dildo that vibrates, ergonomically designed to stimulate the g-spot, offering another function to stimulate more senses. Most vibrators are multi-speed, giving the user variety. Some vibrators also have multiple functions usually including different vibrating patterns giving you even more to explore. The upper echelon of vibrators can even include more functions such as function rotation and warming.

Dual-Action Vibrators

Dual-action vibrators are vibrators with an external attachment that are designed to stimulate the clitoris and g-spot at the same time; you may have heard of the infamous Rabbit Vibrators. Like g-spot vibrators the amount of functions and speeds depends upon the vibrator itself.

Anal Toys

Anal toys vary in shape and size, vibrating and non-vibrating, all designed for your derriere.

It is important to consider whether you are looking for a battery operated or rechargeable toy. Battery operated is often cheaper initially, however in the long run rechargeable vibrators often work out cheaper and give you the advantage of not running around looking for batteries mid-use.

It is extremely important to check the sizing of any sex toy prior to purchase. With any kind of internal stimulator toy, you need to check the insertable length and girth. The full length of a toy may sound terrifyingly big, however most toys are designed to have a considerable size handle allowing the controls to fit and the user to hold it; as a result of this it is not the full-size length that matters, but the insertable length. We would advise that for your first toy, if in doubt go smaller rather than larger, in both length and girth, as you can always upgrade to larger toys when you are more confident.

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